Bullying seems like such a simple word save for the havoc it wreaks. In today’s world of technology it is easier than ever to be the subject of a bully. Adults are at risk as much as children now. Unfortunately it can be particularly devastating for children and young adults. In addition to bullying in school, now you have the added anguish of cyber bullying. With all the websites and accounts that you can have out there in cyberspace, anything can be posted for anyone to see. It’s not a crime unless it crosses the line to become assault or harassment, but it should be. It is not considered abuse but again it should be. When tragedy strikes and a person takes their own life because they just can’t take any more of the bullying, it is still very rare for anyone to be held responsible.
Usually I write about how to protect you from danger. When it comes to bullying, all I can do is offer some things to look for if you suspect some- one you care about is being bullied.
Types of bullying:
- Verbal – name calling or teasing
- Social – spreading rumors or intentionally leaving someone out of activities
- Physical – pushing, shoving and other acts of physical harm
- Cyber bullying – using the internet, texting, e-mail and other digital technology
It is particularly important for parents to discuss the facts of bullying with their children. Teach them how to watch for bullying and to avoid being bullied them- selves. Teach them the coping and social skills they will need?to not become a bully. Often children will fall in with a crowd just so they aren’t different.
There are several signs a parent can watch for if they suspect bullying is a problem.
- Comes home with un- explained injuries or missing clothing or other belongings
- Has a change in eating habits
- Has fewer friends?• Feels helpless?• Talks about suicide
- Acts out of character (suddenly picking on a sibling or friend)
- Avoids certain places or playing outside alone
- Feels like they are not good enough
- Has trouble sleeping
- Blames themselves for their problems
Some signs to look for if you think your child may be bullying:
- Becomes frequently violent
- Has trouble controlling anger
- Is manipulative and controlling
- Is quick to blame others
- Does not accept responsibility for their own actions
- Needs to be the best at everything
Understanding the warning signs of a child that is bullying or is a victim of bullying can help you get the help you need. Counseling can also be an option to help understand the underlying emotional issues of in- adequacy. People, especially children, that are confident and have higher self-esteem are less likely to fall victim to bullying.
By: Jim Doyle, Owner of Madison Security Group
203 Us Highway 31 S, Athens, AL 35611